Now that I am almost 67

This isn’t doom and gloom. It’s recognition. Because pretending these changes don’t exist doesn’t make them disappear; it just makes people feel like failures when biology does what biology does. Sometimes the kindest thing is honest acknowledgment.

1. Reading menus in mood lighting

Restaurants seem to have collectively decided that ambiance means darkness. After sixty, those presbyopic changes that started in your forties accelerate dramatically. Even with reading glasses, deciphering a menu in candlelight becomes archaeological work.

You find yourself using your phone’s flashlight, angling the menu toward the single tea light, or just ordering what you remember from last time. The waiter’s recitation of specials becomes crucial because at least sound waves don’t require accommodation reflex. It’s not vanity keeping you from stronger prescriptions—it’s that even the strongest readers can’t compete with restaurants’ commitment to atmospheric obscurity.

2. Getting up from the floor gracefully

Remember dropping to the floor to play with kids or pets? After sixty, the descent might still be manageable, but the return journey requires strategic planning. You need something to push against, pull up on, or roll toward. The graceful pop-up is gone.

This isn’t just about strength—it’s about proprioception, balance, and joint flexibility all declining simultaneously. Your brain still remembers how to stand quickly; your knees laugh at the suggestion. You develop new strategies: always sit in chairs with arms, avoid floor-sitting cultures, master the art of the assisted rise without making it obvious you’re struggling.

3. Hearing conversations in busy restaurants

Background noise becomes foreground chaos. After sixty, presbycusis doesn’t just reduce volume—it specifically attacks the frequencies that separate speech from noise. Restaurants become acoustic nightmares where everyone sounds like Charlie Brown’s teacher.

You start choosing restaurants based on acoustics rather than food. Booths over open tables. Early dinners when it’s quieter. You become expert at lip reading and context clues. “Did he say ‘grape’ or ‘great’?” becomes a constant internal dialogue. You laugh at jokes a beat late, hoping you guessed the punchline correctly.

4. Sleeping through the night

The bladder becomes an alarm clock nobody asked for. After sixty, you’re up at least twice, sometimes more. It’s not just about prostate enlargement or weakened pelvic floors—though those contribute. Your entire sleep architecture changes.

Deep sleep decreases, REM becomes fragmented, and your circadian rhythm shifts earlier. You wake at 3 AM with stunning regularity, then can’t fall back asleep. By evening, you’re exhausted but somehow still awake at midnight. The eight-hour uninterrupted sleep becomes as mythical as unicorns, existing only in memory and mattress commercials.

5. Remembering why you entered a room

The doorway effect—that phenomenon where crossing a threshold erases your purpose—intensifies dramatically after sixty. You stand in the kitchen, spatula in hand, wondering what culinary mission brought you here. The working memory that once juggled multiple objectives now drops balls constantly.

It’s not dementia (usually). It’s normal cognitive aging where processing speed slows and attention divides less efficiently. You develop coping mechanisms: retracing steps, saying purposes aloud, making lists for three-item grocery runs. The young laugh at their occasional senior moments; after sixty, senior moments become the default setting.

6. Recovering from a night of drinking

The two-drink maximum isn’t puritanism—it’s survival. After sixty, what used to be a mild morning headache becomes a two-day recovery period. Your liver processes alcohol more slowly, dehydration hits harder, and sleep disruption cascades into the week.

You become the person nursing one wine glass all evening, adding ice cubes nobody judges anymore. The days of “rallying” are over. Now, a wild night means staying up past ten, and the price for exceeding your new, pathetic tolerance is paid with compound interest.

7. Maintaining muscle without constant effort

Sarcopenia is cruel. After sixty, you lose 3-8% of muscle mass per decade, and that’s if you’re trying. Skip the gym for a month, and your body interprets it as permission to begin decomposition. What took years to build disappears in weeks.

The unfairness stings: you need muscle more than ever for balance and bone protection, yet maintaining it requires twice the effort for half the result. Young people grow muscle thinking about weights; you lift religiously just to slow the inevitable slide toward frailty.

8. Regulating temperature normally

You’re freezing, then sweating, then freezing again. After sixty, your thermoregulation becomes as reliable as weather predictions. Your internal thermostat breaks, leaving you layering and unlayering like a neurotic onion.

Hot flashes aren’t just for menopause anymore. Night sweats soak sheets. Cold penetrates bones. You understand why Florida exists, why grandparents keep houses at 78 degrees, why that cardigan becomes permanent. Your comfort zone shrinks to about three degrees, and you’re never actually in it.

9. Seeing clearly at all distances

Progressive lenses become necessary evil. But after sixty, even they can’t solve the accommodation problem completely. You need readers for books, different readers for computers, distance glasses for driving. Your nightstand looks like an optometry display.

The worst part? The constant swapping. Reading a menu requires one pair, seeing the waiter another. Working means computer glasses, but checking your phone needs different magnification. You develop a glasses hierarchy, chains around necks, pairs in every room. Clear vision becomes situational rather than standard.

10. Trusting a fart

This one nobody discusses, but everyone experiences. After sixty, the sphincter muscles weaken, sensation dulls, and what feels like gas might not be. That confident release you’ve performed thousands of times becomes Russian roulette.

You develop new protocols: bathroom first, trust later. Long car rides require strategic planning. Laughter becomes risky. The cough-sneeze-cross-your-legs maneuver becomes automatic. It’s humiliating and universal, the great equalizer that makes billionaires and paupers equally cautious about intestinal pressure.

Final thoughts

These impossibilities aren’t death sentences—they’re adjustments. The body that carried you through decades of casual abuse finally presents its bill. Some people’s bills are smaller, blessed with genetics that laugh at aging. But for most of us, sixty marks when “I can’t” replaces “I choose not to.”

The strange comfort is universality. Everyone heading down this path faces similar indignities. The CEO who terrorized boardrooms now squints at menus. The marathon runner plans bathroom routes. The professor who lectured without notes writes everything down.

Accepting these changes isn’t giving up—it’s growing up. The alternative to aging with limitations is not aging at all, which seems worse. So we adapt, accommodate, and occasionally rage against the dying of capabilities we took for granted.

But here’s what they don’t tell you: once you stop fighting these impossibilities, you find peace in the possible. Energy once spent denying reality redirects toward what remains. And what remains, though different and diminished in some ways, can still be enough. Not the same, not what you’d choose, but enough.